Dating can be a fun and exciting time. You get to meet lots of new people and hopefully meet someone that you can spend forever with. If you are looking for that someone special, it’s very important that you don’t waste your time or your date’s time. This article outlines 4 ways that you can avoid being a dating dummy.
1. Don’t be clingy
Being clingy is the quickest way to lose a boyfriend or potential boyfriend. Don’t demand all of his time and attention or expect to be by his side 24/7. The more you bother him to spend all of his time with you, the more likely you’ll find him pulling away and not answering your calls or texts at all. Resist the urge to text him every hour to ask what he’s doing. If he hasn’t replied to your earlier texts, wait for him to do so. If he wants to contact you, he definitely will.
2. Don’t assume that he will change
People don’t change unless they want to. If you’re dating a man who constantly complains, but makes no changes in the things he dislikes, he’s not suddenly going to start. Complaining is what works for him and he’ll keep doing it. If he wants to change something, he’ll do it. Don’t wait year after year for him to make the changes though. It shouldn’t take that long.
3. Don’t sacrifice what you want for what he wants
You don’t need to give up what you want in life when you’re dating someone. This is one of the biggest mistakes that women tend to make. You do not have to give up your identity, dreams, and beliefs because you are dating someone. You are attempting to combine two lives, not morph into one person’s life completely. If you cannot be yourself and follow your dreams with someone, he’s not the one for you.
4. Don’t put up with unsavoury behaviour
Whether your boyfriend hits you just once or calls you names when he’s angry, this is behaviour that you should never put up with. If you are the kind of woman who does not enjoy dirty jokes, but your boyfriend still continues to tell them, this is behaviour you don’t need to deal with. Your life is all about choosing things and people that you enjoy, not putting up and learning to deal with things that don’t make you happy. Some women, especially of the younger generation, are becoming more and more used to being disrespected and that’s not a good thing.
It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. You have to do what’s right for you in the dating world. If there is something you don’t like, change it. Don’t be afraid to move on and find someone better suited to you.